Are You Supporting, or Sabotaging YourSelf?

Mostly, what gets in the way of us living the happy, JOYful, prosperous lives that we wish for is nothing more, and nothing less than - ourselves!

The way we treat ourselves - the stuff we tell ourselves, the stuff we believe about ourselves, the way we see ourselves, the concept we have of ourselves - is the single biggest factor in determining the results in our lives and what we experience.

The world accepts us and reflects back to us our own estimation of ourselves. So what we believe about ourselves, becomes true for us.

If we believe deep-down that we're not good enough, or that there's "not enough to go around" and we're coming from a place of lack - then guess what we're going to experience? Yep, exactly what we believe, and more of the same!

So - are You supporting, or sabotaging YourSelf?

Are you telling YourSelf that You CAN or - you can't be, do or have whatever it is that you wish for?

Because one thing's for sure - if You don't believe in YourSelf, it's hard to keep going. It's hard to even get started - because if you don't believe you can do it - then why bother to try?

Recently I was working with a client who wanted to do something, but kept telling me about her 'block' that was in the way. She believed she had a block. She talked about it and carried it around with her like an old friend. Except it was the kind of friend that sabotages you and stops you from enjoying your life to the full - so really why would you want to keep it hanging around, when it's really no friend at all? 

I said, "What if you decide you just don't need this block anymore. It's not serving You. It's not UPlifting your life in any way. What if you decide just to put it down and leave it behind?"

She became very agitated and said, "I can't. Don't you understand - it's a block!"

"You've decided it's a block," I said to her. And now You can decide to leave it behind, if you want to. It's only fear and you can step over it - and leave it far behind. You can summon up all your courage and take that step over it and keep going. Or you can decide to hang on to it for the rest of your life and let it limit you from the Good Stuff.... "

Once You bravely decide to step over it - you'll see it wasn't really a Big Bad Block at all. Just a little fear that prompted you to expand past your own self-imposed limits and to grow.

You don't need to take a massive leap of faith if that's too scary for you. Baby steps, little by little, loving and supporting YourSelf along the way will get you there. 

And how do I know this? Well, it's because I have done it and am still doing it too - every day! Right there with ya! 😊

The mind is a powerful tool. But we need to remember that it's always UP to us how we use it. We are in charge of our minds. It's not the other way around. We can use our minds to support ourselves, or to sabotage ourselves. It's UP to us to decide!

I'm so happy that my client is starting to realise this for herself - and she's stepping over her block and leaving it far behind - a disappearing speck in the distance!

When we decide to love and support and enCourage ourselves, there are no blocks or limits that can stop us from Rocking our Happiness and Getting our Glow ON!  
 
With Love and all the enCouragement in the world,

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Believe that you're Good Enough and Get Your Glow ON!

Dearest Glorious GloWomen,

An issue that keeps coming up with the women I coach and mentor is around believing that we’re “good enough”…. Good enough to be what we want to be, good enough to have what we want to have and good enough to do what we want to do.

So let me help you get clear on that right now and without further ado….

❤️You (and all of us) are indeed Good Enough! ❤️ And the key is believing that you are!

We all experience periods of self-doubt when we think that we’re not good enough. This often happens when we compare ourselves to others and think that we don’t match up. But many of us are way too hard on ourselves most of the time. Every time we’re down on ourselves for what we think we can’t do, or what we don’t have, or what we haven’t achieved, we destroy our own confidence! 

You might need to improve your skills, increase your knowledge and hone your innate talent and abilities to expand into your highest potential – but you DO HAVE ALL that it takes to do it, as long as you believe in YourSelf. And that truly is the key…

Every single one of us has gifts and talents we were born to share with the world. Nobody gets left out…. And we can all use these gifts and talents to UPlift ourselves and others – that’s why we have them – how cool is that?! 😊

But most of us either don’t recognise what our talents are, or don’t have the confidence to go out into the world and rock those talents! So we relegate ourselves to a life of mediocrity and struggle, believing that other people ‘out there’ are so much better than we are.

Well, that’s just plain sad, unnecessary and a little bit selfish actually – you have so much to give and share - why deprive the world of Wonderful You? 😊

You’ll notice that it’s not always the most talented, or intelligent or especially gifted people that “make it” in this world… Sometimes you might be asking yourself how on earth some of those people even got as far as they have…?

But the fact is that they think they are wonderful! Everyone else may not always agree, but – they don’t care!! They’re too busy believing they’re wonderful and having a wonderful time!

And the rest of us just don’t realise how wonderful we are!

So if you find YourSelf feeling that you’re not good enough, then it’s time to shift out of self-doubt into self-belief. It’s time to start appreciating and enCouraging Wonderful You!

❤️It’s time to STOP beating YourSelf up and to START CHEERING YourSelf ON!❤️

Why let your own self-doubt stand in the way of rocking Your Wonderful Life?

When you give YourSelf the Love, Appreciation and Encouragement you need to go out and share your best self with the world, you CAN rock your gifts and talents you were born to share. And you’ll emPower YourSelf to Rock your Happiness and Get Your Glow ON! 

With Love and all the Encouragement in the world, because I know YOU CAN...

If I am not there for Me, who will be?

Life is so ironic – and we’ve just got to see the funny side. Because if we don’t, we would weep…!

One of the ongoing issues that affects women, and something that I coach women business owners to do - is to stand up for themselves, and to value themselves and not to accept less than what they’re worth.

I was busy working on a women’s program (managed by a male client), when I had to put this into practice and stand UP for MySelf.

Firstly, when the client argued about paying my rate and undercut me substantially. And secondly, when I didn’t receive payment after I had delivered the program.

Even though I was upset about this – I followed up in the nicest way possible. I didn’t want to lose my equanimity. I wasn’t looking to start a fight. I was friendly, but firm.

And then suddenly – I was the Bad Guy!

Even though the money was owed to me for a job I had successfully delivered – I was made to feel bad for asking for it?? The client became defensive and our relationship headed downhill. But at the very least, I got paid!

What a huge disappointment! I was doing the work that I loved – and it was bringing benefit to all. I had great feedback from the ladies who attended, and was excited to continue the program.

I am still trying to find the fine line between being bullied and being a pushover, and standing UP for MySelf successfully in the workplace.

But in hindsight (and a lesson for next time) I should not have engaged in a relationship with someone who did not value me from the outset.

I know it’s fear that keeps us in abusive relationships – and I’ve been in my fair share of those both personally and professionally.

So I’m doing my best to value MySelf more and to walk my talk, no matter how scary it may seem.

Because if I am not there for me – who will be? ♥

It’s Treat YourSelf Tuesday! Stand UP for Wonderful You! (Today - and every other day) ☺

Here’s to showing UP for ourselves, to Rocking our Happiness and to Getting our Glow ON! With Love and Fortitude, 

Believe in Wonderful You and Get Your Glow On!

We all go through periods of self-doubt when we think that we’re not good enough. This often happens when we compare ourselves to others and think that we don’t match up.

I experienced a crisis of confidence recently. I was invited to a corporate function, as they wanted me to be the speaker at their next event.
The speaker that evening was a survivor of a terrorist bomb blast who had lost both his legs, and survived to become a long-distance runner.

As I listened to him I realised that I had always thought of myself as extremely lucky – and one my luckiest things ever was that I had been at the same restaurant as this guy - the night before!
And I was looking after other people’s children (one of whom had snuck out of boarding school – but that’s another story! ☺) so I still feel weak and hugely relieved every time I think about it!
But of course I didn’t want to tell that story. Especially after I heard what he’d been through. It was beyond harrowing. It wouldn’t have felt right to turn around and say how lucky I was to have been there the night before, after what happened to this guy!

And that’s when I started to doubt myself. And the self-defeating thoughts started going around in my head:

“Who wants to hear about how lucky you are? No-one cares how lucky you are. They want to know how you’ve overcome tremendous challenges. How you’ve survived bomb blasts or cancer or swimming in ice. Who do you think you are? What have you ever done that’s so impressive? What’s so inspiring about You?”

I confessed to a group of close friends that I didn’t think I was up to the task of being an inspirational writer and speaker.
Who would be interested in my story? I wasn’t a top CEO who’d built up a billion-dollar business. I wasn’t an ice swimmer saving the planet. I hadn’t survived some life-threatening situation. What did I know anyway? What inspiring credentials did I have to write a book, or stand up and speak to a crowd?

Thankfully, there’s nothing like good friends to help you get over yourself. ☺

They reminded me that I inspire and encourage many people every day!
My writing, talks and workshops always get fantastic feedback!
And then I remembered why I do the work I’m doing and that my credentials are my gifts that I’m sharing every day – the gifts of insight, intuition, humour and tongue-in-cheek wisdom that support and encourage people to enJOY their Life’s journey.

“We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." ~ Marianne Williamson

I’ve made a folder on my computer called “Nice Stuff” which contains wonderful messages and heartfelt Thank You’s from clients and people who’ve heard me speak, or read my work – and if I find myself having a mini meltdown I open this up and read the messages to remind myself that I’m on the right track! ☺

And when we are on the right track the Universe does kindly affirm it for us. ☺ Recently I gave a workshop which was attended by a woman who works for the ice-swimming, planet-saving Lewis Pugh – one of my personal heroes.
She came to thank me after the session and I admitted to her that her boss’s impressive credentials had me doubting my own contribution. She looked around the room and pointed out that I was succesfully achieving what I wanted to do. And she sent me a follow up email to thank me for "facilitating a wonderful session". ☺

Often the biggest challenge we have to overcome is the way we see ourselves!

We disempower ourselves when we compare ourselves to others and think that we’re not good enough.

We erode our confidence with our own self-doubt that stops us from expressing our unique gifts that we were born to share.

So what if there are a zillion people who do what you do. No-one else can do it exactly like You! 

We’re all travelling our own unique journey and we all have our own unique story to share.

"There are scores of people waiting for someone just like us to come along; people who will appreciate our compassion, our encouragement, who will need our unique talents. Someone who will live a happier life merely because we took the time to share what we had to give." ~ Leo Buscaglia

When we appreciate and honour ourselves and all that we are, we believe in ourselves and emPower ourselves to shine our Light and share our gifts.

"Every achiever that I have ever met says, My life turned around when I began to believe in me." ~ Dr. Robert Schuller

Don’t allow your own self-doubt to stop you from doing what You came here to do.
Believe in Wonderful You and Get Your Glow On! ☺

With Love,

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